Tinley Park Man Charged With Beating Wife to Death Pleads Not Guilty
The Tinley Park man jailed for allegedly bashing his wife's head in with a weightlifting bar was arrested twice before on domestic battery charges.
A Tinley Park man jailed on murder charges for allegedly bashing his wife's head in with a weightlifting bar pleaded not guilty at his arraignment Friday.
Bahaa Sam, 47, appeared before Judge Robert Livas via a closed circuit video feed from the Will County jail. Livas allowed the public defender's office to withdraw from the case so Palos Park attorney John Eannace could enter his appearance to represent Sam.
An interpreter translated the proceedings into Arabic for Sam, who is being held in lieu of $5 million bond. Sam allegedly bludgeoned his wife, 38-year-old Nermeen Sam, to death Dec. 19, clubbing her in the head at least 10 times with a weightlifting bar.
Police and paramedics went to Sam's house after a Tinley Park public works employee spotted Nermeen Sam's body next to a tree outside and called 911, police said. Officers reportedly found Nermeen Sam face down in the grass, covered in blood, and the weightlifting bar next to her body.
The cops then went inside and ran into the Sams' blood-spattered 4-year-old son. The boy reportedly told the officers, "Daddy killed my mommy."
The Sams have another son and two daughters.
Sam had been arrested twice before for allegedly beating his wife. The first time, in 2005, he was found not guilty of domestic battery following a trial in front of Judge Jeff Allen but was convicted of resisting police. The second time, following a June arrest, he pleaded guilty and took a sentence of 12 months court supervision.
Nermeen Sam had secured an emergency order of protection against her husband in June but failed to appear in court for a July 19 hearing on whether to extend the order.
In her petition for the protective order, Nermeen Sam said her husband punched her in the face and bit her arm in front of their children and her mother. She also accused Bahaa Sam of hitting and pushing her 64-year-old mother.
Prior to the alleged attack in December, Bahaa and Nermeen Sam reportedly argued over his lack of employment. Bahaa Sam tried to stop his wife from leaving their home and she bit his finger, a prosecutor said at a previous hearing. Bahaa Sam then allegedly chased her outside and beat her with the weightlifting bar.
Mrs 406
4:42 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
Is this man an American citizen? If not, can he be shipped off to his own country? Our tax dollars are being wasted on this murderer... Whether he's a citizen or not. Lowest kind of scum there is.
Tena Abdallah
4:02 pm on Monday, January 14, 2013
If he is shipped out of this country, he will get away with murder! This is one time I do not mind my tax dollars being used. He pleaded noy guily REALLY!
Baba Wawa
5:28 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
Lemme see if I understand this. Instead of facing a potential sentence of 20-60 years in prison at 100% time, you want to "ship him off to his own country" where he may go free or face no penalty at all or even be a hero? Assuming he's not a citizen, of course.
Chauncy
6:48 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
I would have to agree with Mrs. 406 in the sense that living in an American prison is probably better than living free in whatever Middle Eastern country he came from.
bob connors
6:12 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
SHIP EM ALL BACK!!!!!!
Nimbus
8:26 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
By "ALL" you mean Arabs??? You my friend are ignorant!
Chauncy
6:52 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
Nimbus, you're right in that Bob's response was a bit over the top, but I will say that if this thread took a turn and started discussing immigration policy instead of domestic battery - we do need to reconsider quotas from various parts of the world. People are still killing themselves to get in, and we can afford to be picky - both from an economic standpoint, and from a national security standpoint. I can't see a good reason to allow anyone from Somalia, Yemen, Afghanistan, Iran, Libya, etc. etc. to come into our country.
Kerri U
8:00 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
Didn't you know that Muslims can beat their wives anytime?? That is their religion. Way to open our country to allow "religious" freedom.
Tena Abdallah
4:02 pm on Monday, January 14, 2013
Kerri that is a false statement ! I am a muslim and before you make comments like that I suggest you do some research on Islam! So when a non-muslim beats his wife I could make the same stupid comment and say it is part of their religion.!
Kerri U
4:59 pm on Friday, January 18, 2013
I did not say all Muslims beat their wives. I said they can and if you know your Qar'an, you will find that statement in 4:34 amongst other places with literal statements about controlling and yes, beating women. This is a common practice in the Middle East and that is where this man was from. Sorry if you don't like the reality of the Muslim religion as it is overseas. I also did not state that they are the only people who beat their wives, that is ludicrous. It is a very sad situation no matter how one looks at it.
Tina M.
4:59 pm on Friday, January 18, 2013
You uneducated, ignorant fool. First, beating your wife is not part of ANY religion. Secondly, Sam was an Orthodox CHRISTIAN, not a Muslim.
N. Al.
4:59 pm on Friday, January 18, 2013
Kerri for you information this man is Christian and he is not Muslim.........
tp_pete
11:56 am on Wednesday, January 23, 2013
Yes, Kerri U, as you said, it is a very sad situation. And you chose the situation to show your considerable knowledge of the Muslim religion. Even though you know very little about the family in question. And, as has been stated many times, the family is NOT Muslim. And, they don't live overseas ... they live in your neighborhood. Which might just indicate that they aren't the stereotypical Muslims you are trying to portray them to be to prove your point. I mean, if they actual believed in all the things you've said, why would they want to live in the US in the first place? Nothing like fighting a Holy War in the forums of the Frankfort Patch.
S
8:10 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
Dear Baba Wawa
I suppose you think if he came up with the bond money he should be let out just like Gary Swiercz????
Baba Wawa
4:02 pm on Monday, January 14, 2013
Yeah, Sue. Anyone who posts their bond can get out. It's not specific to whoever is charged with a crime or the nature of the crime. That's the law. I didn't write it. Deal with it.
Hibs
8:24 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
Muslims canNOT beat their wives at anytime!! Get ur facts straight before u make such statements. Islam in its true state is a beautiful and peaceful religion. Unfortunately there are some out there that have their own set of rules and ruin the reputation for others. But again I will say Muslims CANNOT beat their wives at anytime. What this unhumane person has done is commit murder!! Please don't make uninformed generalised statements.
Chauncy
6:57 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
Hibs, I think you're being a bit to kind here. Obviously different countries follow different sects of Islam, and can be seen by how many layers of clothing they trap their women under, but the thing that I detest about the religion is their intolerance of other religions. these people kill you for leaving the religion. You may get upset if someone left the Catholic church for some Protestant sect, but no one would condone stoning you for it. It's a barbaric, archaic, stone-age religion. A larger concern of mine how readily they assimilate too - if they come into this country can they adopt our cultural norms, and not for example crush their wives skulls for some reason. Maybe dinner was cold.
Ralf Lipp
8:32 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
Scum bag! !!
BEAV
8:51 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
this family is Christian. they are from Egypt. neither Arab or Muslim. either way it was a terrible act.
lee
4:02 pm on Monday, January 14, 2013
Egyptians are Arab...they speak Arabic, read it, write it....I am half Egyptian myself and you can not tell an Egyptian Christian apart from a Muslim one...same blood my friend :)
Sammy Bee
9:04 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
The ignorance of you people is ridiculous! You obviously dont know anything about other religons. And to say send people back to "their" countries is stupid. EVERYONE in this united states comes from another country.
BEAV
9:32 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
not really. i was born at Christ hospital in oak lawn in 1967. im pretty sure i didnt come from another country. neither did my parents or grand parents. heritage or nationality is different from what country you are from.
BEAV
9:44 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
baba wawa is the new deb melchant of the patch. snickin' her nose into every storys comments with her pearls of wisdom. get a hobby. post a comment for entertainment value once in a while instead of the usual ''know it all'' diatribe crap . how many people even get the baba wawa reference gilda?
Mrs 406
9:47 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
Clearly I asked if he is a CITIZEN of this country, if not, yes I do think he should return to the country he IS a citizen of. And I'm not a fan of our tax dollars housing a murderer in jail that is not a citizen here...and if he's not a citizen, and he were to be sent to his country.... I could care less how they manage him there.
I got this
9:58 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
YES YES YES YES!!!!!!!!!!!
Baba Wawa
4:02 pm on Monday, January 14, 2013
So essentially he'd be free and clear. Is that what you want?
Karen
10:07 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
Such a shame. I am sick reading the above posts, everyone blaming someone else because of their nationality, citizen or not etc. Has everyone lost focus. It is sad enough that the two judges this man appeared in front of did not put an end to the violence then, by a much harsher punishment. My sadness is for the children, they are truly the victims as well as the mother. Instead of all the insults and blaming the afterfact, put effort into finding ways to help this family in need. These childred are left without parents, hearts filled with sadness, they need help beyond belief. Not all this garbage that goes nowhere. Do society a favor, find a way to help others that are not as fortunate as all of you! Do something meaningful, not meaningless words.
Well Informed
10:09 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
I am shocked how some of you are so ignorant, and unintelligent-Bob C. and Kerri U.
To top it off, you are signing your names to your idiotic statements-get a clue!
Mrs 406
10:16 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
Sorry Karen, we all have our opinions...this is the forum for them. This pig that did this crime... He deserves nothing...that's my opinion....yes I'd like to ship him somewhere, anywhere.... Just not here.
Karen
10:27 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
I agree with well informed. I am guessing your mother never taught you to judge an individual by how they treated you? My most wonderful, respectful, kind and caring friend is Muslim. How can you be so shallow as to talk of someone like that man and include his entire race of people? Such an insult. You really seem like idiots. I hope for your sake that someday you will stop the prejudice and give each person that crosses your path a chance, if not, shame on you.
lee
4:02 pm on Monday, January 14, 2013
Thank you Karen for not judging another "Arab"comment! I admire the fact that you have not jumped along the bandwagon for the "it's Muslims" or "Arabs" comments. It shows how educated and socially cultured you really are!
Karen
10:53 pm on Friday, January 11, 2013
I do agree this man acted out a horrible crime, he deserves the utmost punishment. However, i am not one that believes "out of sight, out of mind" in these circumstances. Sure, we could ship him elsewhere, just to have him act out his anger on another undeserving victim. Not my idea of justice. I also think we need to spend more energy reaching out and helping the children. Just my opinion and i have already taken the steps to do so. I will sleep well tonight. Happy New Year.
taxpayer
9:55 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
Kudos to you Karen. I too have taken steps to help the children. I'm not looking for a "pat on the back" as I know you are not either as Mrs. 406 has accused you of. I want to teach my children to help those in need regardless of who or what their parents have done. Those children are the victims. I say we deport him once he serves his time. If we ship him off and set him free in Egypt, he will be free to kill another helpless woman. As for Mrs. 406..............she needs a hug. Obviously she missed the memo that says treat others as you would like to be treated.
Mrs 406
5:51 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
I don't recall stating anything racial, just if he isn't a citizen...go back where he was taught to behave the way he did. My mom taught me well, take a look in the mirror yourself, you just can't keep your mouth shut! I slept very well tonight. I'm glad you reached out to help the children ( getting the pat on the back you were looking for). You and your holier than thou opinion, well you can have it... Not interested in your way of thinking at all.
Susu
6:15 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
Mrs.406
Shut up your comments and your "opinions" are STUPID
Go grow the other half of your brain !!!!
Michelle
7:58 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
I think everyone here missed the part that he pleaded NOT GUILTY! I'm sorry, but doesn't the statement of a 4 year old tell what really happened that day?! I pray that the little boy doesn't have to testify and relive that day again. Praying for that family to heal. My heart breaks for what the children must have lived with for so many years. May the cycle of violence be broken here for them. And for the other nastiness here...yes, this is a horrid crime and he should be punished to the maximum. However, this kind of hatred is what is fueling so much of the violence and hate crimes right here in our own back yard. It is no different what race or religion this man was. Fact is a man killed his wife...in front of his own child. For the Christians out there may I remind you...
http://www.openbible.info/topics/judging_others
lee
4:02 pm on Monday, January 14, 2013
Thank you Michelle! One of the few, and very few people here who aren't going religious or race crazy on the subject! You stuck straight to the point that an abusive man killed his wife and pleaded not guilty! Thank you again!!!
Kerri U
9:12 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
Qur'an (4:34) "Men are the maintainer of women because Allah has made some of them to excel others and because they spend out of their property; the good women are therefore obedient, guarding the unseen as Allah has guarded; and (as to) those on whose part you fear desertion, ADMONISH them, and leave them alone in the sleeping-places and BEAT them; then if they obey you, do not seek a way against them."
Do not tell me I am ignorant or wrong. I realize not all Muslims beat their wives but their religion gives them the "right" to do so. I was wrong in my assumption of the man's religion or lack thereof and for that I apologize. I did not state that only Muslims beat their wives unfortunately every race and ethnic group has men that do that.
Sara
9:37 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
Maybe you should quote the bible where it states rape, incest, and slavery of wives is OK. Don't bash one religion unless you're ready to hold a mirror to your own.
Kerri U
9:48 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
I was giving "proof" that my previous statement was not wrong since someone stated that I was. Sorry if you don't like it. I see you say the bible says those things but I don't see any quotes just accusations. I guess we are in the same boat opposite sides so lets call it a draw, the beauty of the USA.
lee
4:02 pm on Monday, January 14, 2013
And look further Kerri, it says and do not hit them hard. This guy isn't even Muslim. He's Coptic orthodox, which is older than Catholicism! Basically it states that a man may like shake his wife to get some sense in her, but to beat her and leave markings is forbidden. It also teaches that a woman is made from the rib of Adam, she is neither above him nor below him, but equal as she is made from the side of him.....before googling something, try and get different interpretations of it. Misunderstandings of something sensitive like religion can be regarded as disrespectful.
Tina M.
4:59 pm on Friday, January 18, 2013
Kerri:
Timothy2:12-- And I do not permit a woman to teach or have authority over a man, but to be in silence.
Corinthians 14:34-- women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak but must be in submission always, says the Law.
Would you like me to go on. There are plenty more.
Rusty S.
9:56 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
Get them the hell out of our country!!!!!!!!!!
lee
4:02 pm on Monday, January 14, 2013
Our cou try? Unless we are Native American, this isn't really our country. Every person here otherwise is an immigrant at one point of time long ago.
beth johnson
10:19 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
hey.... its legal in their country/religion! ahhaha what a scumbag the kid will be scared for life. SHIP HIM BACK!
lee
4:02 pm on Monday, January 14, 2013
It is not legal for a man to beat his wife in "their country". How many whites, African Americans, and Hispanics beat their wife? Ignorance is strong among us now a days...and ignorance is stupidity.
Karen
10:25 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
To Mrs. 406,
What a shame to think we would help children just for recognition or a pat on the back. That statement clearly tells me that you are completely oblivious to the common sense reasoning of our actions. Clearly you are a woman who likes a good argument and is unable to process what we were explaining. I do not care to argue as i feel it is a waste of time and you are not a person with whom we can discuss issues or even agree to disagree. And regarding your statement above, i do not feel we have taken on a holier than thou attitude. You also say you are not interested in our way of thinking, your choice. However, maybe someday if you open your mind a bit to broader solutions, you may even be able to reach out and help someone in need instead of just pointing a finger and being judgemental. I will hope for that for you because it is a much healthier place to be.
tp_pete
11:08 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
If you want to know what "intellectuals" live in your community, all you have to do is come on the Patch and read people's posts. If they were said in a public forum (meaning, in person) you could at least take a picture and know who the village idiots were ... these posts about immigration policy, religion, culture, and legal jurisprudence are priceless. Makes me want to come up with a device you can attach to a computer like a breathalyzer which measures your IQ before you can use it.
Chauncy
11:25 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
No one here claimed to be an intellectual. I do think a bit of xenophobia is warranted though. I read a few other media posts (tribune, southwest town, etc) and it sounds like he punched her and bit her in front of their kids in June because she wouldn't sleep with him. I'm not saying that there aren't other men in America who would do that. But people will naturally put this guy's misogynistic outburst together with the fact that women in some Middle Eastern countries are not allowed to drive cars or be seen in public without a male chaperone, and will conclude that this guy has no right to be in the country. I understand that his wife was a Christian, but I never saw evidence of his religious affiliation.
But tp_pete, it sounds like you don't think Frankfort Patch contributors aren't going to solve domestic violence this weekend - and I just disagree.
tp_pete
11:55 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
So Chauncy ... are you saying that there are no examples of domestic violence by Christians/Catholics? Or maybe you espouse the belief (as another poster so elegantly stated) that we should "send them all back" (whoever "them" is)? BTW, I hope this particular criminal is prosecuted to the fullest extent allowed by the law, not that it will bring these poor kids mother back or be enough of a punishment to make this guy suffer in this world.
tp_pete
12:00 pm on Saturday, January 12, 2013
Also, my definition of "xenophobia" is a fear or distrust of other cultures based on a lack on understanding. I don't associate xenophobia with a rational or reasonable response to encountering something foreign, so I'm not sure why it would be warranted.
Chauncy
4:02 pm on Monday, January 14, 2013
This is not a scientific study, but I am going to go out on a limb and say that our modern Western culture treats women far more equally than does modern Middle eastern culture - whether you're Egyptian, Persian, Shiite, or Sunni. Not many clitorectomies happening in Frankfort - unlike Somalia. Very few girls are shot in the head for speaking for educational equality between the sexes - unlike Pakistan. Not many stoned to death for adultery - unlike Mali.
So no, I'm not saying there aren't Christian scumbags too; there clearly are. What I am saying is that I can completely sympathize with readers who react to his nationality and the frustration that they feel paying $70,000 per year to jail this guy, feed him, educate him, provide him with free medical care, and so on. If you come to this country, keep your nose clean. Not just those from the Middle East, but Latinos, Greeks, Chinese. We provide an unsustainable amount of social welfare in this country. I am all for repatriation otherwise. He can live with the new Muslim Brotherhood in Egypt.
Chauncy
4:02 pm on Monday, January 14, 2013
Even in day to day society, I witness Muslim women walk about 20 steps behind their husbands when walking "with" them. They even get a different place inside the mosque to worship. You wouldn't want to treat these uppity women equally. This woman who was murdered had obtained a job, and was trying to improve herself. From what I read, those factors played into their dysfunctional relationship. So tp_pete, I can appreciate good liberal banter - but I am maintaining my defense of anyone who expresses somewhat prejudiced views of men from the Middle East - even though he may or may not be Muslim himself, he comes from a culture which is solidly Arabic/Islamic.
Rich Schmidt II
11:27 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
Hopefully, a Will County Sheriffs gun 'accidentally' discharges while close to Mr. Sam. Or better yet Hans & Franz bludgeon him to death w/ their dumbbell.
Chauncy
11:30 am on Saturday, January 12, 2013
Whoops, double negative in that sentence. I don't want tp_pete to think I'm not an intellectual.
Chauncy
4:02 pm on Monday, January 14, 2013
My last post was apparently censored - maybe we have some Chinese ex-patriots at the Patch who are overzealous with their censorship - but it merely stated that I concede that there are bad Christians as well. Catholics can abuse their wives too.
My deleted point was this: In Frankfort, I don't think any young girls receive clitorectomies - unlike Somalia. Few girls in Frankfort are shot in the head for speaking in defense of educational equality for the sexes - unlike Pakistan. Very few women in Frankfort are stoned to death for committing adultery - unlike Mali. I understand that he may or may not have been Muslim, but he comes from Egypt, which shares an Arabic and Islamic culture, where women are not treated as they are in the U.S. Cultural norms are absorbed through day-to-day interaction, and with 90% of the Egyptian population being Muslim, those norms are undoubtedly conveyed and probably embraced.
Chauncy
4:02 pm on Monday, January 14, 2013
We know that women are not allowed to pray in the same area of the mosque as well. I have worked with Muslims, we have Muslim neighbors, I grew up in a University-town which had a very diverse international population (Madison, WI), I took coursework in religious studies - focused on the "Abrahamic" religions: Islam, Christianity, Judaism. I am not completely ignorant.
I am still defending those who have made posts questioning whether his cultural heritage has contributed to his treatment of his former wife. Now my deleted posts may not be as P.C. as the guy who said "get them the hell out of the country", but I'll stand by my assessment of the differences between Western and Middle Eastern cultures.
lee
4:02 pm on Monday, January 14, 2013
For those saying this guy is Muslim and its allowed to beat your wife if you are Muslim, how's this for a big surprise? The guy is Christian. Coptic orthodox to be correct. He is from Egypt. So I guess Christian's are allowed to beat their wives as well then huh? And what do half of anybody know about any other religion besides their own? Absolutely nada except what we get from other ignorant people thinking they know it all. Since people want to be a know it all, why don't you Wikipedia it while your at it...google Islam and see if the religion states "a Muslim man is allowed to beat his wife anytime" if you can find it in the Koran, I will eat my words and agree 100 % and say all of those stereotyping Islam are the smartest people on this planet and buy them all dinner.
Chauncy
4:59 pm on Friday, January 18, 2013
Lee, Karen did this days ago:
Qur'an (4:34) "Men are the maintainer of women because Allah has made some of them to excel others and because they spend out of their property; the good women are therefore obedient, guarding the unseen as Allah has guarded; and (as to) those on whose part you fear desertion, ADMONISH them, and leave them alone in the sleeping-places and BEAT them; then if they obey you, do not seek a way against them."
But since I re-quoted her with the information that you sought, I'll take some crab legs from Red Lobster.