I think posting pictures of people who prey on children would do more than posting pictures of people who don't pay for their children. Show where these creeps live with a picture.

Both are just as bad. The addresses of of sex offenders are public knowledge. I'd say to people waiting for the child support to never give up! I had a support order from 1986 and he didn't pay a thing for 15 yrs until the new support laws kicked in! A child support court order NEVER goes away no matter how old the child is. My 2 children were in their 20's when I FINALLY started getting the money owed to them. That went on for 10 years till the $80,000 + dollars was paid in full. There's always hope and printing pics/names of the scofflaws is a necessity.

The whole thing is a shame .You can not depend on Child Support when getting divorced. The provider proboly was not a good supporter when you were married, so what makes any of us think they are going to follow thru and pay. Michigan is so much more tough on this and the state of Il has to get a with the program,. Alot of these families end up collecting some kind of gov. support and we all know who's money that is!!.

Great job on this feature! I am sure it will locate at least some of these clowns.

My ex owes so much in back support, my son is now 19. How can I go after him to pay support when he's not working? He owes enough money that it would really help my son right now with college and a car. So frustrating!

Children should not have to do without so long. It is neglect!!! Let's come together and do something about this as a group of strength!!! http://bewarehalaustin.wordpress.com/2012/04/05/coming-together-for-action/

As a women u made the decision to haue a child. birth control is the womens responsibility. your child is your responsibility. animals dont have dead beat dads. yes its hard alone. but so is childbirth. suck it up or put your kids up for adoption. we tax payers arent responsible because u didnt take birth control and got pregnant with very little money saved by some man who u thought would let u stay at home and not work the rest of your life.

Donna are you for real? People get married and have children. Sometimes things dont work out. That is absolutely NOT a womans fault! So, you are saying basically to put your kids up for adoption after you divorce because you cannot support your children alone? You have children as a COUPLE and you should be responsible as a COUPLE to support and help them grow! GEEZ get real lady

and tdesliva...
go to the local courthouse with your original papers showing what you were granted monthly in child support. You will need a current address of your ex, so be sure you have it with you. You will fill out papers to have a court date, the clerk is usually VERY willing to assist in that, so dont worry if you do not know how. The papers will have to be sent to your ex certified mail, so do it right away. He will probably not show up first, but the judge will continue the case so he will have another chance. You may have to bring your child to court with you, since now, the child is an adult. You are basically filing for your child now, and not for you.
Good luck!

Donna your ignorant and unintelligent . I supported my x husband for years and We ended in divorce. He makes 60,000 more than me now. So your saying my two kids should be Put up for adoption bc he refuses to pay and i asked for child support. Hello he also created our children it take two.

right zula...because in todays world only the man can have a job and make money...what makes it ok for a woman to be supported by a man, but not the other way around? Really, some of you need a reality check!

It sounds like you are really bitter that your hubby left.

I love this feature! I only wish something like this existed when my father left us and never paid my mother(who worked 3 jobs to support us) a dime that he owed in child support. Great job!

Donna and Zula are the most ignorant people I've come across lately. Its 2012. How do you survive in today's society?
thank you Oak Lawn Patch for this article.
And Ray, pictures of sex offenders ARE posted. For 15+ years now....

Wow Donna & Zula-how ignorant can a person be?? Birth control is not just the woman's responsibility-ever hear of a condom??!!! I have a 13 yr old son & do okay in supporting him. That being said why should he not have have more opportunities? What did he do wrong? He is an awesome kid that does what he should as a child & both of his parents should do everything to support him to help him be his best self!! What I find messed up is I get about one child support check for $200 or less a year-but if his father so chooses he can have visitation.

The Child Support system is totally broken. There are women that have children just to get a free paycheck. Of all the money these people owe, how much actually goes toward the child(ren)'s welfare. The government needs to reform the laws to have those that collect child support, provide them with allocation of proof that the money is being spent on the children. Most of the women I know of personally that collect childsupport spend the money on fancy cars, nails, hairdos, etc. everything except the poor children, which is why some men hate paying directly to the also deadbeat so-called mothers. If the government can stop being bias toward men and have the moms prove that the funds were spent on the children, I can almost guarantee the deadbeat rate will decrease by half.

How about posting the pictures and address of the vindictive, selfish, scorn "Ex" who continue to take the non-custodial parents to court who paid in excess of support owed??? Instead of wasting the taxpayers and court systems time, and padding the bank accounts of these low life legalized theifs they call "Divorce Attorneys" ???

How about posting the pictures and address of the vindictive, selfish, scorn "Ex" who continue to take the non-custodial parents to court who paid in excess of support owed??? Instead of wasting the taxpayers and court systems time, and padding the bank accounts of these low life legalized thiefs they call "Divorce Attorneys" ???

If you are a man in Illinois, you have absolutely no father rights. Couts are so pro-woman it in't even funny.

Equality my pink butt.

It is funny how this always seems to be about Dead Beat "DADS". I raised two boys without any child support from my Dead Beat "WIFE". It wasn't about the money it was about raising the kids. Perhaps the court system could start awarding custody of the children to the parent with the ability and the means to raise a child, instead of being biased and almost exclusively awarding custody to the mother.

The article lists a woman, as well. There are many horror stories when it comes to child support issues and the governments way of dealing with it, and these stories come from both sides, and male and female alike. This is why positive change never occurs, everyone forgets THE most important thing. It's about the children. They're innocent, beautiful, and deserve to be supported both financially and emotionally by both sides of the family. If everyone can just enter into this with that in mind solutions can be accomplished. My ex abandoned my son and won't help support him in anyway. He's autistic with many needs and I struggle everyday to provide for him and make his life a little better. This is our story...http://bewarehalaustin.wordpress.com/2012/04/05/coming-together-for-action/

Donna, you need a reality check! When I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, my first action was contacting an adoption agency because I knew I couldn't count on the father for anything. When I went to Texas based on his verbal consent (which is per Texas State Law), he immediately changed his mind and hired some lawyer to get custody of the very child I was pregnant with (who is/was a laughingstock in the courts). Many of these non-custodial parents do everything in their power not to support the child that they helped create, leaving the custodial parent holding the ball. Oh, and as for birth control, I can't take it because I have Reynaud's Phenomenon. Worst case scenario is that I will need my hands and feet amputated, so I'll be on some form of government aid either way.

Wow, I can't believe how many people fell for Donna's troll bait. Trolls are a fact of life and Patch has them too.

Women get more then their share in a divorce. The house temporary support so they can be trained to get back into the work force (which is a joke its more for hair coloring and clothes and weight watchers) and the money for the kids which is really going mostly to the woman for new shoes. Men take the beating.

Let me start by saying that I pay full child support and more and Family law in illinois is a joke.... big industry where the system is squeezing both good and bad dads. Its a fact that women file for divorce more than men and men walk away from conflict more thanwomen do

My kids mom who quit her job as she filed for divorced, took the kids away to another country refusing to come back and I had to go through hell to get them back, argues in court to keep me from seeing the children to a few hrs a week and then gets dcfs on me with false accusation. Here is the irony, I know she can't keep a joband has borderline issues , are the kids better off with her or a parent who can give kids a stable environment and a future. I'm at a point where I don't know what's better for my kids,me giving up on them or walking away from them and moving to another state so I don't have to deal with this pain.

Carmell,
Thank you for your support.

Tears are rolling down my cheeks (and I rarely cry) as I read your response because I think about my kids all the time and how much I want to be there for them, just like my dad has been there for me.

I just hope I have enough strength to continue fighting and get over this broken system and a vindictive person.

Jorge

Listen I am pro-choice but here is a bit of the hyprocrisy that we as woimen tend to ignore...With great rights comes even greater responsibilities..

Here is the hypocrisy as best illustrated in this cartoon

http://www.tastymojo.com/LouisvilleMojo/photos_pgp/093/PG7432020080109062112593093.jpg

heres the other side of the discussion for unwed mothers that benefit from our broken child support system..
I wroite to you as a fellow progressive that has served a mental health practitioner and long time advocate for CHOICE! Having worked in the field of psychology I have had to approach the unique challenge of providing therapeutic intervention for men whose psychological distress is directly linked to feelings of powerlessness as it relates to family and reproductive decision making. I have stood along side men in the trenches that have defended with great passion our right to “choose”. That is… the same men that fight so passionately for our rights have begun to on some level wonder why their voice in the discussion related to reproductive rights not even be heard in the discussion. I must admit that I have begun to evolve on this issue in a way that is more consistent with an old quote made by Karen Decrow of NOW..

“Justice therefore dictates that if a woman makes a unilateral decision to bring pregnancy to term, and the biological father does not, and cannot, share in this decision, he should not be liable for 21 years of support. Or, put another way, autonomous women making independent decisions about their lives should not expect men to finance their choice.” —

Karen DeCrow, former NOW President ( National Organization for Women, U.S.A.)

In 2007, my nephew (19 at the time) committed suicide after a woman 7 years his senior admitted to pregnancy entrapment (contraception tampering) He was to attend college in the Fall but instead was served with CS orders. Absent the ability to prove in public what this woman admitted to in private my nephew was told to simply “man up” by the courts. After two years of depression his suicide note read… “I cannot believe this has happened. Some days are better than others, but I have decided that I would rather die than to continue to support – - – - . My entire life has been turned upside down and I pray that God recives me with understanding”.This has made it very personal for me

What I find most intriguing about the “war on women” is that I keep finding myself as twenty year choice advocate being perplexed by this dicussion. I work in community health. It is hard to ignore the statistics that 70% of our children (black women) are born to unwed mothers. Many of the very women for whom I have advocated for years do not even value or exercise the responsibility (use of birth control) that comes with complete control over reproduction pre and post conception. I am personally insulted by the suggestion of a war on women while we as black women continue to enjoy the right to complete control over reproductive decsions while abdicating ourselves of complete resonsibility that comes with it. What is disturbing is that we are marching in the streets regarding the assault on black men while I am (right now!) watching the police escort an unemployed neighbor to jail…not for robbery or assault but for his inability to pay child support! Listen I am a choice advocate but I am evolving in my belief that the very men that have stood in the trenches alongside me in defense of a womans right to choose would not even have their reproductive rights taken into consideration.

Motherhood is a CHOICE in 2012 and we have alienated many potential male allies that do not desire to take that choice away but desire to simply have equal treatment under the law.You see by focusing on condom use and post-conception responsibility it focuses on male responsibility or lack of and absolves us of any responsibility for the personal choices that we made. When men “walk away” we refer to them as deadbeats but the top three reasons that they walk away are the very same reasons that women put their children up for adoption or abort. We dont refer to women as deadbeats for “abandoning” the responsibility that comes with conception but we extend compassion to our girls and women about the options they have should they not be in an ideal financial situation, relationship or the potential impact on career. Do we not believe that men experience the same anxieties and fears and can be impacted in a such a way as well? As one that has worked in community mental health and in private practice with men whose pain has often been dismissed and/or completely invisible to society I think its time we begin exploring these issues. I fought as have other women, too hard for a womans right to choose, while most simply enjoy the rights without responsibility.

There has been a war on our men and I will simply say that a community that despises its men run the risk of creating a community of despicable men. I watched coverage of the crisis in Syria a couple of days ago. As is common practice in western journalism it was reported “20 killed including women and children” I thought little of it until my nephew of 21 years of age stated “Theres the problem right there, we get the message loud and clear; our lives are assigned different value than everyone elses.” I must admit that it is hard not to argue that the value we have placed on our mens lives has been reduced to their “doings” instead of value in their being

It is a very interesting dichotomy where we are vocal about our strenngth and independence while maintaining the idea of ourselves as victims of mens ill intent. The very concept of focusing our attention on condoms (male symbol of sexual (ir) responsibility) and mens behavior post conception is a blatant attempt to shift focus away from the 20+ options we have available to us to prevent unwanted pregnancies and the lack of responsibility we demonstrated pre-conception. We cannot continue to ignore the voices of our men in this discussion. We also cannot keep saying “he should keep it in his pants if he doesnt want to pay” as it undermines our efforts to protect choice. We would never support a woman being told that.

I write to you as you have a voice that at the very least can invite more objective analysis of the problem to the mainstream. I beg of you as a mother of sons that you gein an egalitarian humanist discussion that truly considers the men and boys in our community. I may not have effectively articulated my thoughts but I pray you get the general conversation I ma trying to engage you in ..

I lost two male clients to suicide after long struggles with the family courts.. Society cannot continue to ignore the men in our communities, it will cost us much more than it already has.

Natalie Jackson Ramirez, EdD., LMFT

It's about the children, not the whiney, deadbeat parent, male or female, too selfish to take responsibility for their child. Focus, people, focus. Only the children are innocent victims here.

Far too simplistic an argument! Children do not have to be born under these circumstances. The best interest of children provides cover for railroading men and fathers. Child support should not ne given to unwed mothers..70% born towomen that can prevent these situations but men are irresponsible pursued by my child support agency and jailed? America a country that already is the. Laughing stock of theu world forunder for its mass incarceration of its. Citizens.aughingztock of the

When people divorce they are just trading one set of problems for another. The kids won't suffer so much if the parents keep them out of it and don' t talk nasty about one another. I am 50 and did not know my dad was ever behind in support until I was 35 years old. My parents never involved my sisters and I and my parents till this day are friends and we can all get together and have nice visits. Things have gotten so mean and times sure have changed!

when you don't agree with someone's message, demonize them!

I must admit that I could care less who made that long post. What I find interesting is that you all chose not to provide the woman with a counter argument for what are a few very valid points. Instead you all spend time trying to discredit her as if that diminshes the validity of her argument. I am so glad the world is finally waking up to some of the injustices against men and boys.

GREAT ARTICLE! I dont have any children BUT IF I DID I would expect the other parent to contribute too! What the heck are these people thinking????????